Growing up in New Jersey, everyone wanted to be a tough guy. That meant baggy pants that fell down, big T- shirts, and chains. I couldn't imagine wearing tight jeans, as I thought it was dorky. Now I look at pictures of me then and think, 'Yeah, you looked dorky.'

What doesn't confuse me about what women wear? When it comes to women's fashion I'm so oblivious. I have no idea what's going on.

With all due respect to 'The Vampire Diaries,' doing the same thing, over and over again, for essentially five years straight, it really becomes laborious and tedious, and it becomes a job. You obviously find gratification in acting, but you're playing the same character. No matter how compelling it is, it starts feeling pretty monotonous.

I would hope that, for me, regardless of what happens in my career in the future, I always want to maintain a level of humility. I think it's so important to not lose yourself and to just understand that you're a conduit.

I have differences of opinion within my own family, an Irish Catholic family. So, I do respect those that disagree.

I want to live with that sense with the music I make, with the art I make, with the way I love my kids, with the way I am a father and a husband and a friend and a follower of Christ, I want to live with reckless abandonment to the truth of the Gospel.

They would wake me up when I was sleeping, and say sing a song for our friends. I had a sweet voice, I had a nice little tenor voice. God knows what I sang, but my whole family would admire me.

I know parents have a hard time letting their kids spread their wings and fly.