What I want in my career is different to what I wanted when I was 21. It's got to be something that keeps my family together, that allows me to be present in their lives.

For years, I was 'just' a stay at home mum and wife - which, by the way, is harder than any other job I've ever had.

I had this career and then I was working and then I met Rob and then I kind of went off and got married and had kids, and in that process, which was amazing and fantastic, I lost my confidence as an actress and as a working woman.

We've got eight dogs, a cat, a turtle, kids... yeah we have a lot of dogs. It's a lot of fur, it's a lot of poop... and that's not even counting Robbie. He's the hairiest most feral animal of all.

It was really important in my relationship with James Caan that I understood the relationship between the family and the father.

Love always, in one way or another, means pain as well as joy.

I went to Jersey City State College to please a family member. I wasn't prepared for school. To say I failed out is putting it nicely.

When a father puts in long hours at work, he's praised for being dedicated and ambitious. But when a mother stays late at the office, she's sometimes accused of being selfish, neglecting her kids.