I've had a lot of different responses to my films. I got a lot of support from 'The Piano,' the obvious one, but it feels like an ocean, with a lot going on - the goal is to keep alive.

I seem to have been able to make a career out of doing what I feel like doing, so why not keep doing it? What's corrupting is wanting to be more important. You want to be more arty - you get your identity from that. Or you get your identity out of making more money.

Because there is that sort of feeling that people don't know what to do with gaps in their lives. It's a scary notion, but actually, if you can stand in space just for a little while, a new door will open, or you'll be able to see in the dark after a while. You'll adjust.

This is the first generation to grow up on Thatcher - it's a different ethos. It's money minded, and it's the cult of yourself. Now that's fine, except when it falls down, and you can't achieve your goals - through high unemployment, through the fact that you probably need inherited money to get anywhere.

I've made choices that work with my family. I want to work and I want to be with my family so I just walk the tight-rope of showing up for both those things.

My family advocates doing what fulfills your soul. They've always said, 'You're a big girl; figure it out on your own.'

Encourage your friend and family member who are queer parents of color to post their stories and share it with the world. It's time for us to be seen.

Having the balance of a work life and a family life has been so good for me.